Friday, May 8, 2015

An Italian Holiday -- Part 1 Venice


The month of April whipped by me like a whirlwind.  Luckily for me, this first full month of spring included a visit to my daughter in Italy.  What better excuse is there to plan an Italian vacation?  Our daughter and her boyfriend – recently, following their engagement, her soon-to-be husband, are living on the Ligurean coast just outside of Genoa for nine months.  Our trip consisted of visits to four different parts of Italy.  We loved them all:  the common theme was, of course, the remarkable food but each place had a unique charm that made us want to stay much longer.  What is it about Italy that captures your imagination and makes you want to linger and return?  Perhaps it is the pleasing landscapes and the classic architecture?  Perhaps it is the country’s wonderful history and extraordinary art? Or perhaps it is simply the food: the pasta, the olives, the wine and the incredible variety of fresh vegetables?  Whatever the reason, a vacation in Italy is always captivating and all the more so when your own daughter is there and able to speak Italian!

First up on our trip was Venice with the maze and mystery of its canals; next came Florence with its Renaissance masterpieces – a shoppers’ paradise; then our daughter’s home in Genoa/Nervi and the rocky Ligurean coast, otherwise known as the Italian Riviera; last and not least was Trapani, the old Sicilian seaport with its rugged landscape, offshore islands and ancient, elegant ruins.  It is impossible to choose a favorite among these four wonderful places.  I will try to describe in my next few blogs why we loved them and why you should make an effort to visit all of these places if you possibly can. 

It is easy to be a tourist in Italy even if you don’t speak Italian.  Everyone seems genuinely happy to see you and delighted to share their food, their culture, and their rich history and pour you a glass of local wine!  Italy is the perfect place for an active older (or for that matter younger) tourist who wants to enjoy delicious food but doesn’t want to gain weight!  A visit to Italy requires a lot of walking and that burns off the calories!  There is so much to see and in most places, walking is the only way to see it.  On the average day, even without trying, we walked at least six or seven miles.  On the one day when we decided to go for an actual hike, we walked more than ten miles – most of it straight up and then straight down hill.  Italy, and particularly the Ligurean coast, is very hilly and your leg muscles get a great work out.  I definitely needed to stretch after that hike and I definitely deserved my mid-afternoon gelato.  Lucky we’d been spending time staying strong in the gym back in Seattle.  A very good reason to exercise regularly, as you get older, is to ensure you can manage “walking” vacations.

Our first stop, after an easy but long trans-Atlantic flight, was Venice.  We flew overnight and arrived at the Venice airport about 10:30 in the morning.  My husband and I are in the habit of renting apartments when we travel instead of staying in hotels.  Nowadays, the range and types of apartments available for short-term rental are wonderful.  We prefer the homey feel and the extra space and amenities that apartments bring – a kitchen, a place to sit other than on a bed and the experience of living in another culture – even if only for a short time.   We’ve also found that apartments are often cheaper than hotels and of course, cooking at home is definitely cheaper than eating in restaurants every night.  On the advice of friends, I chose to rent an older apartment in a largely residential neighborhood away from the tourist bustle of San Marco Square for our four days in the medieval town.


The apartment was in a charming, but quiet part of the old town.  We found it easily by taking a boat taxi directly from the airport and pulling our wheelie suitcases over cobble stoned streets the few blocks distance to the apartment.  After a short nap – it’s a long way from Seattle to Italy – we ventured out for lunch, a little sight seeing and food shopping.  Lunch was the easy part of our first outing.  Venice is jammed with restaurants – osterias, trattorias, sidewalk cafés, every kind of eatery you can imagine except perhaps the fast food kind.  No Subways or McD’s to be seen.  Instead we found small, family-run restaurants, one after another, lining the neighborhood canals with pretty wooden tables and umbrellas. 

Venice doesn’t have any cars or trucks at all.  Instead, the town is a network of canals filled with boats of every size and variety – playing the roles that cars, trucks and buses usually play.  I don’t know exactly what I was expecting since of course I’d read about Venice’s canals.  I’d seen pictures of gondolas and large passenger ferries but I guess none of that really sunk in.  I just did not expect that Venice wouldn’t have any streets or motorized wheeled vehicles at all.  I also did not realize how peaceful it is to have no cars or trucks or buses.  To the extent that there are streets they are narrow and exclusively for pedestrians.  Even bicycles aren’t allowed and that makes a lot of sense.  If you were on a bicycle you’d be getting off every few feet to climb up steps and over a bridge across a canal.  Every neighborhood in Venice is connected to the others by arched bridges that cross the seemingly endless maze of canals. 

The whole landscape is ridiculously picturesque and simply beckons you to enjoy it.  It isn’t necessary to have something specific in mind for a Venetian holiday.  It is enough to be there and to wander; to simply enjoy being in Venice.  Just being present is compelling.  For example, sitting in the living room of our rented apartment, I just wanted to look out of the big windows all day long, admiring the occasional gondola and the back and forth rhythm of boats moving on the canal below me.  Across from me, on the other side of the canal, I admired a stately fifteenth or sixteenth century building.  Forest green shutters set off its tall windows; the roof was made of terra cotta tiles and the walls were rich yellow ochre stucco.  It was so pleasing to my eye and looked much as it must have during the Renaissance – sturdy and majestic at the same time. 

Venice is full of tourists but pleasantly so.  Everyone is there to explore and enjoy.  My husband likened it to an adult Disneyland and there are some aspects that are reminiscent.  For example, everyone is there to enjoy him- or herself; every corner brings a new and interesting building or a lovely view and something new to explore.  Perhaps one of our favorites was all the different kinds of boats – private boats carrying one or two kids home from school; taxi boats carrying families or friends out and about; gondolas full of tourists moving languidly down the canals or large boat buses carrying folks to work or play; commercial boats transporting goods and equipment; working boats full of tools en route to fix buildings or repair plumbing; delivery boats; and everywhere, bridges, churches, small alleys lined with pretty colored stucco or brick buildings.  On one afternoon, we ventured out into the lagoon on a larger boat, i.e., a Venetian “bus” to visit three different nearby islands.  The suburbs of Venice are adjacent islands.  The first island we visited is the most famous, Murano, where the wonderful Venetian glass blowers set up their factories in the thirteenth century to avoid fire dangers in the city.  Murano is still full of glass factories and the prices range from pennies for a small souvenir to tens of thousands for one of a kind works of glass art.  The second island was largely rural and undeveloped – although its history is older than that of Venice itself.  Its claim to fame is a beautiful cathedral built in the seventh century and the adjacent 11th century church that honors Santa Fosca – a fifteen-year-old girl from Libya who converted to Christianity but turned herself into her irate father only to be tortured to death.  It seems religious intolerance is not confined to the 21st century.  The final island we visited, Burano, was my favorite only because its multi-hued houses were so striking.  The story goes that the Burano fishermen each painted his house a different color so that he could find it when returning from long fishing voyages.  Whatever the origin, the houses are a rainbow of colors and delightfully bright.


Perhaps our favorite experience in Venice was not visiting historically important cathedrals or museums but simply the experience of wandering around the neighborhoods, seeing the sights and getting lost!  We spent much of every day doing just this.  Somehow we found our way to a remote Venetian mask store, to the open-air fish market at Rialto, to a tasty restaurant in a distant neighborhood that was recommended to us.  We walked through peaceful squares, the so-called campos and past impressive buildings with wrought iron balconies overflowing with flowers, we wandered down tiny little alleys that dead ended at the edge of narrow canals; we admired medieval statues and small fountains, we climbed up and over countless bridges, and ventured into little bars, cafés and explored beautiful cathedrals.  We kissed in the moonlight standing on the bridge over our canal and held hands so we didn’t lose each other in the crowds of tourists.  In our four days, we felt as if we had just touched the surface of Venice.  We will have to go back again.

Wednesday, April 1, 2015

National Poetry Month!

Today, April 1 is the first day of National Poetry Month.  In honor of this important month I am posting a poem I wrote a couple of weeks ago.  I will try to post more poems during April – no fooling!  I encourage everyone to look up the National Poetry Month website at

Join the celebration – write a poem; read a poem; take a poetry workshop.  Poetry is fun; it is free and wonderful – it will inspire you and give you new ideas.  Poetry might help you understand a personal dilemma or work through a difficult or sad situation.  Poetry has done this for me and for many others throughout history.  I am certainly not a brilliant poet but writing and reading poetry is always satisfying.  Recently, I went to a free poetry writing workshop given by the Washington State poet laureate, Elizabeth Austen.  It was held at the public library in Poulsbo Washington and attended by about twenty folks from around Puget Sound.  Ms. Austen is giving these workshops in every county in the state of Washington this year.  Part of her pledge as the state’s poet laureate is to make poetry accessible to everyone.  To this end, in addition to the free workshops, she is posting Poetry Prompts everyday during April at her website

Look this site up too and write a poem. 

My mother was in the habit of reading a poem every morning before she got up.  Her ‘Poem of the Day’ book was always at the ready on her bedside table.  What a wonderful way to start the day.  It only takes a couple of minutes to read a poem but it can be the best minutes of the day.  Try it.

My poem today is about retirement.  In two months I will have been retired for two years.  Wow.  I feel as if I’m just getting started on a whole new life.

Retirement

Retirement means making my own granola.
I've left behind
The glamour and the drama
Of the working life,
Like so much baggage  
Abandoned on the bench
At a long forgotten train station
For anyone to take or mistake
For what they lost or found?
I don't miss it nowadays
I'm finding out
Everything is new.

I want to give you my granola recipe too.  It is very easy to make even if you are not retired!  I modified it from a recipe that was originally published in the New York Times and given to me by my friend Linda.  My husband and I eat this granola almost every morning for breakfast.  We add plain yogurt, a little milk and some sort of fruit.  It is delicious and healthy whether you are retired or rushing off to work.  Enjoy!

Almost time to make more granola! 
Joanna’s Modified Olive Oil Granola With Pistachios
6 cups old-fashioned rolled oats
1 1/2 cups raw pistachios, hulled - sometimes I can't find raw ones so I use roasted salted nuts and reduce the added salt
1 cup raw pumpkin seeds, hulled
1 cup coconut chips - baked and unsweetened
1/2  cup pure maple syrup 
1/2  cup extra virgin olive oil
1 teaspoon salt
1/2 teaspoon ground cardamom
1. Preheat oven to 300 degrees. In a large bowl, combine oats, pistachios, pumpkin seeds, coconut chips, maple syrup, olive oil, salt, and cardamom. Spread mixture on two rimmed baking sheets in an even layer and bake for 45 minutes, stirring every 10 minutes, until golden brown and well toasted.
2. Let cool to room temperature and transfer granola to a large airtight jar.
3.  Serve with fresh plain yogurt; Fresh fruit – berries, sliced apples, oranges – all are nice; and milk.
Based on a recipe courtesy of Melissa Clark as per Copyright 2009 The New York Times Company
I don’t know if you’ll be able to write better poetry if you make and eat this granola but I know you’ll enjoy it and feel healthy and happy when you are gobbling it up.  Maybe you can write a quick poem while you eat breakfast tomorrow.  After all that might be more enjoyable than reading or watching the news.  



Tuesday, March 10, 2015

Early Spring and A Perfect Day

My gardening friend Martha described the weather we are having in Seattle this glorious early March perfectly.  She told me “This is my favorite time of year…just the promise    the not quite of spring….”

How I love that phrase “the not quite of spring”.  Of all seasons, spring is the one that promises so much.  Flowers begin to bloom; leaves start to open; temperatures rise; creeks rush their winter water to the sea; twilight gets longer and brighter with each passing day.  You can almost feel new life in your bones.
























As the result of some minor surgery that is keeping me out of the gym and off my bike, I’ve taken time to wander through several favorite Seattle Parks in the last week.  Two of my favorites, the University of Washington Arboretum and Volunteer Park are glorious.  Pink and white magnolias, early weeping cherries, big-blossomed camellias, deep coral quince, yellow forsythia and all manner of daffodils are in full spectacular bloom.  I can’t help but love them all – I want to slip under their floral canopies and see the sky from their flowery vantage.  The spring sky itself is worthy of praise – brilliant cerulean blue that deepens to an almost purple hue at dusk.  The other night, as I was walking home, the moon was just shy of full.  Through my skylight in the middle of the night, its distant glow gave me a feeling of comfort.  Wherever I am, each month I watch as the moon reaches its full potential and spreads its kind glow across the night sky.



 Season changes and moon phases are magical.  They give us the opportunity to renew ourselves and, at the same time, feast our eyes.  We are very lucky to live in such a beautiful world with its (hopefully if we are a little more careful) capacity to renew itself.  While there are many uncertainties on our earth at the present and too many inequities, the beginning of spring is an annual joy.  Maybe where you live, spring isn’t here yet or perhaps you are in the southern hemisphere and moving into fall.  It doesn’t have to be spring – every season has a reason for joy.  Take notice.  Don’t take the seasonal change for granted.  Go for a walk and explore the world around you.  Wander aimlessly among the trees.  Perhaps indulge in an exercise that some friends of mine and I did recently: imagine your perfect day – not some fantasy day but a real day that you can capture in your life right now.  
Then go out and live it.

Here is my experience of a perfect early spring day.  I was staying on the central California coast in a small house owned by one of my three sisters.  I am lucky enough to be one of four sisters.  We decided to share a sisters’ weekend together.  We are all middle-aged married women, two of us retired and two still actively engaged in their professions.  We’ve spent many holidays and vacations together over the years but we had never spent a weekend together just the four of us, unencumbered by husbands and children.  It was time to remedy that.

The day began slowly.  We were all tired from traveling the previous day and, although we planned to do a hike at Point Lobos State Park, there was no reason to get up on a forced march schedule.  We awoke, one by one, the two older retired sisters first followed by the two younger sisters.  I found a Chemex coffee maker in the kitchen and put the kettle onto boil.  I filled a pan with milk and heated it slowly on the stove.  With the help of a battery operated, hand held tool called Aero Latte, I made delicious lattes for my older sister and I.  I made a pot of strong Typhoo tea for my middle sister and brought the teapot, a small jug of milk and a selection of nice ceramic mugs on a tray into the living room.  When my youngest sister awoke, I made her a nice hot latte too.  The four of us settled into the living room, watching the big pine trees through the windows and reminiscing about times past.  After awhile and another round of lattes, my older sister made a big pot of porridge (i.e., cooked oatmeal).  We washed some fresh berries and set the table for a delicious healthy breakfast.  It was soon time to dress, put on our shoes, fill our water bottles and take off for Point Lobos. 

The drive was relatively short and picturesque – we paralleled the Pacific coast driving past old farmsteads and occasional herds of cattle.  We parked outside the park boundaries along the roadside.  Our leisurely breakfast ensured that we were not the first to hit the trail on what was a beautiful blue sky Saturday.  Two of my sisters had been to the park before but two of us had not.  Like many Pacific coastal parks, Point Lobos has a wonderful history that includes early settlements and fishing and whaling expeditions.  The park is spectacular and well worth visiting.  Its mature vegetation includes areas of giant Monterey Pines and ancient Cypress.  The trails follow a circuitous track around and across steep rocky promontories and incised bays.  We could see the spouts of grey whales offshore and smell the pungent odor of hundreds of harbor seals basking in the sunshine on small rocky beaches.  We watched a sea otter open his mussel lunch while swimming happily on his back.  Here and there we saw early spring wildflowers in bloom, peeking unexpectedly from rocky crevices.  Everywhere we looked, the azure sky, the deep forest green and rusty red furrowed bark of the old trees made postcard-worthy pictures.  We hiked for a good three hours and stopped at the old whale museum to watch a video about the history and ecology of the region.  We drank water from our water bottles and decided it was time for lunch. 

One of my sisters knew of a small nearby sandwich shop where we ordered fresh avocado sandwiches.  One of the delights of California is eating freshly picked ripe avocados especially yummy with a little California olive oil.  We wandered around the small town, nosing into its shops.  We spent an hour in a small municipal art gallery, full of paintings by local artists.  Some were quite amateur but others were beautifully crafted.  As it got later in the afternoon we decided to find a super market and buy groceries for dinner.  We had chosen a one dish meal for dinner – Ribollita.  Ribollita is an Italian dish somewhere between a soup and a stew.  This one is made with white beans, Italian sausage, a variety of veggies including Tuscan kale, and a splash of white wine.  Find the recipe on line at Bon Appetit:
It is simple to make and eaten with homemade croutons.  With provisions in hand, we returned to the house and started our preparations.  My older sister took charge of the Ribollita; I took charge of the croutons; my middle sister made us a lovely pot of tea.  After tea, we moved into sharing white wine while we cooked and talked and enjoyed each other’s company.  When the Ribollita was ready, we sat at the table and ate heartily.  Despite the late lunch, the hike and fresh air had made us hungry.  The day ended with a fire and more talking.  It seems that sisters always have something to talk about – sharing experiences, hardships and joys, comparing options and figuring out the best solution to everyday problems.  When it was time for bed we were tired and happy.  We hugged, brushed our teeth and crawled under the covers.  It was the end of a perfect day.

In closing, I’d like share one of our dad’s favorite spring poems – something that we four sisters grew up with – it is occasionally attributed to Ogden Nash but who knows…just a fun ditty from the 1950’s.  Enjoy!

Spring is sprung
The grass is riz
I wonder where the birdie is?

They say the bird is on the wing
But that’s absurd
The wing is on the bird.

Tuesday, February 24, 2015

Setting Schedules and Learning Portuguese

Point Lobos State Park, California
Hello blog readers.  I’ve not posted any blogs in the past couple of months.  I took a break – as any fellow retirees know that is one of the amazing privileges of being retired.  You can take a break, change your schedule or shift priorities at will.  It doesn’t have to be a vacation or due to illness.  It can be for any reason.  My break was the result of many things: moving from Brazil back to Seattle, celebrating the holidays, making long-overdue visits to family and friends in California, completing other writing projects and planning some changes for our small urban garden.  Now I’m back blogging.  I won’t talk about my garden changes today but I’m sure I will in future blogs – suffice it to say that one of my ambitions for 2015 is to become a better gardener! 
My husband and I returned from Brazil with way too many suitcases and packing boxes in mid-December.  Our time in Brazil during 2014 was perhaps my most memorable visit ever to my adopted country.  Before I explain why this visit was so fulfilling, I want to reflect for a minute on my blog, Mango Coffee and Me.  What about its content?  What about its future?  Not that you are worried but I plan to continue posting on Mango Coffee and Me.  As a writer, blogging helps me understand and document this new and interesting phase of life, share its upsides and downsides, my feelings, my travels and the occasional poem and recipe.   I started blogging in the fall of 2013.  I was recently retired and I was excited that my writing might no longer be confined to short poems tapped into my iPhone Notes on the commuter bus going home.  Not that I didn’t or don’t like those poems.  I do.  Here’s one I like:

Memories of Rio

I remember
The beach at Ipanema,
While the 255 express bus
Cruises across four traffic lanes.
I sit high on the transom
Wishing I was still in Rio;
Wishing the sun was burning my back
And I was lying prone
On the white, mica-rich sand.

I wrote that short poem in 2006.  I was sitting on the Number 255 bus going to work one morning.  We had just returned from an all too short vacation in Rio.  The nostalgic sentiment seems like a lifetime ago.  In 2014 I lived in Rio for six weeks and bicycled to Ipanema a couple of times a week.  I lay on the beach and let the fine-grained sand run through my fingers.  It was a privilege and much better than sitting on the express bus dreaming of distant sun and sand.

When I first retired, I looked forward to having more time to exercise, to cook, and to live in, rather than just vacation in Brazil.  I was excited by the prospect of learning, perhaps becoming fluent in Portuguese.  Knowing another language has always been on my bucket list.  I wanted to write about the transition to retirement, how I felt about not having the day-to-day pressures and schedule constraints that my work life – much as I enjoyed it – brought.  For more than 40 years, I’d worked full time.  Excepting a couple of years after our second child was born and we lived in Brazil for my husband’s work several months each year, I was a working mother when the kids were in childcare and pre-school.  I worked K through 12 and I was still working when they went off to college.  Except during vacations and weekends (which don’t really count) I never had the experience of creating my own schedule.  My days off were about vacation or being sick.  That is quite different than being fully in charge of one’s daily schedule.  I don’t mean to say that I had no role in my work schedule.  Only that its priorities were appropriately set outside of me.  When weekends or vacations happened, schedules were planned to maximize family and experiences – let’s visit grandma; let’s visit Idaho or France or Whistler; let’s go camping…the experiential approach took planning of course but it was vacation for heaven’s sake…not "real life".  That was my past schedule – largely set by externalities.  When I retired my children were long since independent adults; my parents and in-laws had all died – I’d already lived through the sandwich generation.  It was over.  My husband was still working and we do not have grandchildren (yet).  I felt an awesome freedom and anticipated a new ability to manage my time.  I wanted to document that experience.  I am a child of the sixties after all.  I want to know and understand the inevitable process of aging.  I want to manage that process through healthy diet, exercise and activity.  

In my first blog I called my “still-to-be-realized” process aging gracefully!  I think many of us early baby boomers thought we might be in charge of aging or, better still, invulnerable.  I guess we were a bit spoiled.  At least we were out there in the neighborhood playing tag with all the other kids.  And I see a lot of us out on our bikes or at the gym.  That’s good.  Exercise may not help us age gracefully but it definitely keeps us independent and it's a lot of fun.

Now that I’ve been retired for almost two years I have a little more perspective on time and schedule.  For perhaps the first time in my adult life I find myself enjoying being able to just be at home in my house.  I’ve organized a home office in one of my children’s former bedrooms.  It is a room of my own where I can write or daydream.  But I've also discovered it is surprisingly easy to let time drift away in retirement.  On the flip side, I've found it is just as easy to get so scheduled with commitments that no time remains for personal priorities.  I am slowly teaching myself how to be in charge by consciously choosing what I most want to do and scheduling my days accordingly.  That may seem obvious but for someone who spent a great deal of her life being there for others, as a caregiver to children and aging parents and as a manager at work, it’s not.  After a lifetime of being there for others, I find I have to be very conscious about scheduling time for the things that are important to me.

Before I blog off I want to explain the unexpected and most rewarding experience I had living in Brazil in 2014.  During our first two times living there, I spent endless hours studying Portuguese.  I was lucky to have a wonderful professor.  But learning a foreign language as an adult requires a lot of solo discipline.  I sat at my kitchen table memorizing irregular verbs; I walked to the supermarket reciting declensions; I socialized awkwardly and often felt exhausted by the mental effort required to understand what my friends were saying.  This past 3-month visit I decided I would just say NO!  No more lessons.  No more vocabulary lists.  I decided I might have to give up my bucket list goal of Portuguese fluency.  Well guess what?  It didn’t work like that.  It turns out, after a couple of weeks this past fall, I found I was talking in Portuguese.  Who knew?  Maybe my kitchen table sessions worked although I honestly still don’t understand the conditional.  What happened to me is what happens when you live abroad and actively seek out another language.  At some point you start to figure it out.  I am not talented in languages and I don’t by any stretch of imagination think I am now fluent.  What happened is that I found myself able to communicate in Portuguese.  And communication is what language is all about.  Suddenly I noticed I could joke with the cashier at the supermarket; ask the bus driver what stop got me closest to my destination; chat with my neighbor; go to the doctor and explain my symptoms and understand what I needed to do to get better.  And it was fun to be able to talk.


My husband has a great expression about learning a language.  He says you need a certain amount of kilometerage – that’s like mileage only in countries that use the metric system.  What he means and what I experienced is the phenomenon of learning another language through exposure.  It has to include discipline, memorization and practice.  But there is reward in putting in the time.  If you had told me that increased language skills would come to me, someone who has a terrible ear and no natural language facility I would have said, based on months of effort, no way.  But it happened.  As a result, my life in Brazil is all that much more enjoyable.  It will be fun to return in a couple of months.  Meanwhile I'll be writing and working on my garden.
What I hope my garden looks like next spring…the Seattle Flower and Garden Show!